Keep the Lights On

As we enter into Autumn, it is important that we take care of ourselves- especially those who suffer with anxiety, depression and/or trauma. Here are some tips for keeping your head above water

  • Don’t Isolate

Even if you’re an introvert, be sure that at least once per week you are spending time with others. If this means attending 12 Steps or a Meditation Class, keep your cup full so you don’t feel alone

Trap- spending time at a mall alone.

Solution- Be in the company of like-minded people that lift you up

  • Meditate
  • It’s important to change your brain chemistry and create new neuropathways. Having a private meditation practice is essential, but so is meditating with others. There are #MaxMeditation classes literally all over the world that will help you do this.
  • Trap- thinking that meditation cannot be successfully done in a group
  • Solution –try it- it’s dirt cheap and you’ll get a lot out of it
    • Take really good care of yourself
  • Self care is really tough for those who suffer with depression or ACE’s. Even the simplest act of making your bed and taking a shower can really help improve your mood.
  • Alanon teaches the acronym HALT– don’t get too Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. Whether you have an Addict in your life or not, this is great advice!
  • Trap- eating junk food and not keeping a regular bedtime will mess you up faster than anything.
  • Solution-Even if you’re going through a period of time where you don’t sleep well, get up at the same time every day, shower or bathe and attend to your day. This will help you if you choose to do it. Eat fruits and vegetables and proteins
    • Keep coffee or tea dates

    If money is a problem, do an exchange with someone who lifts you up. Once a week meet at each other’s homes and switch off.

    Trap- believing you can’t because you have no money is a lie you’re telling yourself. You two can meet and drink water. The important thing is human interaction!

    Solution- make a call or send a text or email today, right now, and get out there!

    There is ALWAYS a way to get through the tough times- always.

    Keep the Lights On

    As we enter into Autumn, it is important that we take care of ourselves- especially those who suffer with anxiety, depression and/or trauma. Here are some tips for keeping your head above water

    • Don’t Isolate

    Even if you’re an introvert, be sure that at least once per week you are spending time with others. If this means attending 12 Steps or a Meditation Class, keep your cup full so you don’t feel alone

    Trap- spending time at a mall alone.

    Solution- Be in the company of like-minded people that lift you up

    • Meditate
  • It’s important to change your brain chemistry and create new neuropathways. Having a private meditation practice is essential, but so is meditating with others. There are #MaxMeditation classes literally all over the world that will help you do this.
  • Trap- thinking that meditation cannot be successfully done in a group
  • Solution –try it- it’s dirt cheap and you’ll get a lot out of it
    • Take really good care of yourself
  • Self care is really tough for those who suffer with depression or ACE’s. Even the simplest act of making your bed and taking a shower can really help improve your mood.
  • Alanon teaches the acronym HALT– don’t get too Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. Whether you have an Addict in your life or not, this is great advice!
  • Trap- eating junk food and not keeping a regular bedtime will mess you up faster than anything.
  • Solution-Even if you’re going through a period of time where you don’t sleep well, get up at the same time every day, shower or bathe and attend to your day. This will help you if you choose to do it. Eat fruits and vegetables and proteins
    • Keep coffee or tea dates

    If money is a problem, do an exchange with someone who lifts you up. Once a week meet at each other’s homes and switch off.

    Trap- believing you can’t because you have no money is a lie you’re telling yourself. You two can meet and drink water. The important thing is human interaction!

    Solution- make a call or send a text or email today, right now, and get out there!

    There is ALWAYS a way to get through the tough times- always.

    Talk is Cheap

    As a culture we give all the appearances of a race of people addicted to the negative and talking about the negative. Notice how easy it is to get into a conversation with someone about a topic that is dark, or about a third person.

    The same can be said about the Healing Process. We can become so addicted to talking about our “story” or “issues”, that they become our identity and rob us of the ability to heal because we are stuck sitting and spinning, around and around about the same topic related to an event in the past where we were harmed in some way. Our emotions are engaged, our egos are entangled in the emotions, making it seem impossible to stop because everything feels relevant and necessary and important.

    I want to be clear, I have done it too. If you look in the “About” section of my website, you’ll see how much Work I’ve done, some of which did involve some sitting and spinning, so please don’t think I’m excluding myself from this conversation at all- I’m not.

    Therapy-the kind where we sit and talk to someone about the thing or things that happened- can be very constructive if it leads you to a greater sense of empathy and understanding of yourself and the people involved in whatever your specific wounding is or was.

    However, if what you want is true healing of the anxiety you’re facing, what you need is energy and brain work- not talk. You need to be able to safely release the negative emotions you’ve been carrying, and also change your brain patterns so you can move on with your life. The best way to do this is through meditation and energy work. Meditation changes your brain patterns by creating new neuro-pathways. You end up using more of your brain and it actually makes you smarter. Energy work such a Jikiden Reiki, heals emotional energy trapped in the body.

    Talk is cheap because it robs you of forward movement. When I work with my clients, we don’t talk, we work. We dig in and we move energy. Healing is work worth engaging in.

    Anxiety and Psycho-Spiritual Healing

    Stress is the known, the conscious thing you are dreading or concerned about.  Anxiety, however is unconscious. It’s the panic attack that hits you “out of nowhere”. It’s the fight with your partner over laundry that gets completely out of control and the next thing you know, you are having a screaming match over socks. It’s the recurring nightmares-all of it. 

    I deal with the realm of psycho-spiritual Healing and the Unconscious. I’ve been on this Path since I was 19 years old and learned about the Work of Carl Jung. I work with Archetypes in the Meditations I do with my clients to help them Heal from Trauma and Anxiety.  The Energy Work I do releases Trauma held in the mind and body so the client can experience Peace.

    The reason there are so many wounded Souls out there wounding other Souls, is that The Great Work-the Process of truly Knowing yourself-is not for the faint of Heart! It’s bloody hard work! The Process of reclaiming your True Self and learning to live in the Present Moment is a deep exploring of your wounds: facing your demons and having the strength to let them go.

    Anyone who has suffered Trauma will prefer the darkness they know to the Light they don’t know. Of course this doesn’t make sense to you. You didn’t have your brain wired for danger and drama because of an event, or ongoing events in childhood or young adulthood, or adulthood. We are the ones who duck when we hear a loud noise or have strange personal rituals around bathing, food or sleeping. Thankfully my junk only comes up occasionally now-because I did and continue to do a lot of work to keep it that way. I’m a Healer so it’s a Job Requirement. I stay clean so that when I work with you, our work is clean. my ego isn’t a part of the equation.

    It’s so important to remember that we all need a variety of tools. Medication is an important stabilizer, but it is truly naive to believe for a moment that meds will make everything all better-that’s honestly not what they’re for. They keep you stable while you are working on your issues. If you’ve been frustrated that more isn’t happening in your life now that you’re taking the correct medication, or you feel you’ve hit a roadblock, it’s because you need more.

    Therapy can be essential, but it can also be a distraction. If you are learning about yourself and growing as a person, great! If you are sitting and spinning and avoiding, and complaining and crying endlessly over the same events over and over again,  then you’re wasting your own valuable time and money. Energy work will assist you in moving deeply into what is hurting you and it will also assist you in releasing it all.

    When I do Energy Work with clients, I work with #JikidenReiki and #LIfeActivation and #CrystalHealing. Reiki is now recognized as a very useful Healing Tool for everything from Cancer to smoking cessation.  Energy Work is essential because it can bypass the ego’s protective mechanisms and provided needed pain relief-both emotional and physical.  The Life Activation is used to charge the body with Light and Hope. Again-this is an Energy Healing that bypasses logic and ego and provides deep healing.

    Meditation is essential for brain re-patterning. When you are in Depression, Anxiety and Trauma, your brain gets stuck in “fight or flight” as a response to the event or events that occurred in the past. Your brain kept you alive. Now, your job is to help your brain heal by changing those defence mechanisms. The war is over, but your brain doesn’t know it yet. Max Meditation TM is a system that uses the five known forms of Meditation, so it creates 5 new neuropathways every time we use it-this is productive brain development. With children I use  the #MiniMeYoga Meditation System TM which was developed from the Max Meditation System. It is effective and fun for the children while assisting them in learning valuable relaxation techniques. When I teach adults the Mini Me Yoga 2 Hour Workshop, I show adults how to playfully and gently assist young children in learning essential self-regulation strategies.

    I also use my own system called the Castle Meditation System TM, in which I assist you in reclaiming your sense of personal sovereignty, and we work with the Chakras. Each one of those energy centres in your body has medicine to share with you and assists you in living more fully in your body. Most people think Meditation is about getting out of your body. The systems I use were designed to help you go deeper in and find stability and peace.

    Adults and Developmental Trauma

    “Adults who suffer from developmental trauma may go on to develop Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or “cPTSD,” which is characterized by difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness and memory, self-perception, distorted perceptions of perpetrators of abuse, difficulties in relationships with other people, and negative effects on the meaningfulness of life.” –Grant Hilary Brenner M.D.

    In other words, if, like me, you suffered from abuse or some other form of trauma as a child, it doesn’t go away. It affects every aspect of your life. It will keep you from everything that you really wanted and needed because it’s still asking you to deal with it. 

    Are you still having flashbacks? Are you having panic attacks? Are you still single because you’re afraid of being in a relationship, or have you noticed your “picker” is broken ( you choose partners who are not emotionally available, or are selfish and abusive)? 

    The flashbacks and the panic attacks are your Soul’s way of getting your attention. You aren’t meant to live in fear anymore. 

    It’s so hard when you’re in it because what you think of as normal isn’t . It’s simply what you’re used to-the lack of sleep, all of it. 

    Here are some thoughts to consider:

    1. Get real and get honest- if any of what I’ve said is you, go and talk to a Professional.
    2. Don’t let shame keep you from getting the help you need. What happened “to you” all those years ago was NOT your creation. You didn’t cause it, you couldn’t control it and you could not cure it
    3. It is usual for a child or an adult child to feel tremendous guilt for either surviving the experience or being unable to have stopped it. I felt like this about my mother’s cancer. I felt incredible guilt that I couldn’t keep her alive- as if I even had the power to. Children have very different perspectives than adults as their brains are still developing.
    4. When you’re the survivor of an event or ongoing abuse or trauma of some kind, you live in a state of stress, anxiety and “fight or flight”. Your “emotional brain” shut down at whatever age the trauma occurred. This means you could be an adult who is 45, but emotionally you could be 3.
    5. Chances are, if you’ve survived developmental trauma and you haven’t sought treatment, you’ve moved around a lot. In the past ten years, how often have you moved for whatever reason?
    6. How many different job have you held over the past five years? Depending on your brain, you may have either been at the same job for years afraid to move, or may have changed jobs once a year or more often

    You deserve stability and security. You do. Take a baby step. Look in the mirror and tell yourself the Truth. There is help to be had if you want Peace. Love yourself enough to get help.

    Be Where Your Feet Are

    I sat with my two little Loves at breakfast yesterday and asked them what they would want people to know about what I do and how to help adults and children manage anxiety.

    First, to you, Dear Reader and to everyone they wish unconditional Love and Peace.

    1. we want you to have a miracle
    2. we wish the best for everybody

    One of the things I asked them about was Meditation, which we do nightly at bedtime.

    Meditation is key in changing brain patterns which effect stress and anxiety.

    He said he didn’t know how to actually meditate before. He finds it very relaxing and helps him sleep

    She said it helps him go from being a scared little boy to a calm gentleman

    As for a #LifeActivation, which I offer clients:

    She said it renews you- like if you’ve done a lot of bad things in your life it can renew you and bring you closer to God

    He said when you’re really frightened and scared and need help, you can get a Life Activation and bring the Light down to you.

    So with that, my family and I wish you Love and Hope.

    #Anxiety is manageable and we will walk this Path together!

    Let’s start at the very beginning-it’s a very good place to start.

    Today’s Practice- Be where your feet are. Just that. Whenever you feel yourself drifting into the Past or the Future, just gently come back and be here now, where your feet are.

    Kids, Stress, and Yoga

    Why do kids need Yoga other than the fact that it’s fun and good for you like broccoli ?

    One of the foundational components that I focus on when teaching kids Yoga, is emotional intelligence. If children aren’t aware of what they are feeling, or why, and if we don’t give them tools to deal with their feelings appropriately, we are in danger of creating a society of unconscious bullies who prey on those who are more sensitive than they are-more aware of what they are feeling.

    In my classes, a part of what I teach is heart-opening and deep belly breathing. This is important for so many reasons!

    Do you realize how much of your day you spend breathing straight from your lungs with very quick and shallow breaths? This is actually “fight or flight breathing” and you don’t even know you are doing it! Your body is in “pounce” position-poised for a fight. Can you imagine how this effects your interactions with others?

    • picking fights
    • misunderstandings
    • paranoia
    • fear-based thinking

    We have so many unconscious habits as children  that we have brought forward into our adult lives that are not helpful!

    When we do the ohm at the beginning of our class, it is an invitation to centre ourselves and gather ourselves together consciously. When we do the ohn three times, we are connecting ourselves to the world around us, consciously. This is something that both children and adults can do each morning to start their day by remembering that we are all in this together, and there is nothing to fear.

    Deep belly breathing is an antidote to stress and the “fight or flight” response. When we consciously take a deep belly breath, we are sinking our being deeper into our bodies and grounding ourselves in our current reality. In other words, we are getting out of our heads and out of our own way!

    If children learn from an early age to breathe deeply and anchor their hearts, they are far less likely to live in fear all the time, waiting to be attacked or pick a fight because they are afraid. Just like with martial arts, this is a discipline that encourages self-inquiry and self-awareness.

    As a survivor of child abuse, I know first-hand how mindfulness practices change your thinking and assist you in dealing with life on life’s terms-fully present.

    Our kids face all kinds of stressors that we didn’t-media alone is a big one. Children are bombarded by noise both visually and audibly. Mindfulness practices are a perfect tool for allowing a moment of reflection between stimulus and response, cause and effect, push and pull.

    We all need a minute.

     

    Love and Light,

     

     

    Heather M. McCrae, MEd

    Consultant and Ambassador to Canada

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