Keep the Lights On

As we enter into Autumn, it is important that we take care of ourselves- especially those who suffer with anxiety, depression and/or trauma. Here are some tips for keeping your head above water

  • Don’t Isolate

Even if you’re an introvert, be sure that at least once per week you are spending time with others. If this means attending 12 Steps or a Meditation Class, keep your cup full so you don’t feel alone

Trap- spending time at a mall alone.

Solution- Be in the company of like-minded people that lift you up

  • Meditate
  • It’s important to change your brain chemistry and create new neuropathways. Having a private meditation practice is essential, but so is meditating with others. There are #MaxMeditation classes literally all over the world that will help you do this.
  • Trap- thinking that meditation cannot be successfully done in a group
  • Solution –try it- it’s dirt cheap and you’ll get a lot out of it
    • Take really good care of yourself
  • Self care is really tough for those who suffer with depression or ACE’s. Even the simplest act of making your bed and taking a shower can really help improve your mood.
  • Alanon teaches the acronym HALT– don’t get too Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. Whether you have an Addict in your life or not, this is great advice!
  • Trap- eating junk food and not keeping a regular bedtime will mess you up faster than anything.
  • Solution-Even if you’re going through a period of time where you don’t sleep well, get up at the same time every day, shower or bathe and attend to your day. This will help you if you choose to do it. Eat fruits and vegetables and proteins
    • Keep coffee or tea dates

    If money is a problem, do an exchange with someone who lifts you up. Once a week meet at each other’s homes and switch off.

    Trap- believing you can’t because you have no money is a lie you’re telling yourself. You two can meet and drink water. The important thing is human interaction!

    Solution- make a call or send a text or email today, right now, and get out there!

    There is ALWAYS a way to get through the tough times- always.

    Keep the Lights On

    As we enter into Autumn, it is important that we take care of ourselves- especially those who suffer with anxiety, depression and/or trauma. Here are some tips for keeping your head above water

    • Don’t Isolate

    Even if you’re an introvert, be sure that at least once per week you are spending time with others. If this means attending 12 Steps or a Meditation Class, keep your cup full so you don’t feel alone

    Trap- spending time at a mall alone.

    Solution- Be in the company of like-minded people that lift you up

    • Meditate
  • It’s important to change your brain chemistry and create new neuropathways. Having a private meditation practice is essential, but so is meditating with others. There are #MaxMeditation classes literally all over the world that will help you do this.
  • Trap- thinking that meditation cannot be successfully done in a group
  • Solution –try it- it’s dirt cheap and you’ll get a lot out of it
    • Take really good care of yourself
  • Self care is really tough for those who suffer with depression or ACE’s. Even the simplest act of making your bed and taking a shower can really help improve your mood.
  • Alanon teaches the acronym HALT– don’t get too Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. Whether you have an Addict in your life or not, this is great advice!
  • Trap- eating junk food and not keeping a regular bedtime will mess you up faster than anything.
  • Solution-Even if you’re going through a period of time where you don’t sleep well, get up at the same time every day, shower or bathe and attend to your day. This will help you if you choose to do it. Eat fruits and vegetables and proteins
    • Keep coffee or tea dates

    If money is a problem, do an exchange with someone who lifts you up. Once a week meet at each other’s homes and switch off.

    Trap- believing you can’t because you have no money is a lie you’re telling yourself. You two can meet and drink water. The important thing is human interaction!

    Solution- make a call or send a text or email today, right now, and get out there!

    There is ALWAYS a way to get through the tough times- always.

    Adults and Developmental Trauma

    “Adults who suffer from developmental trauma may go on to develop Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or “cPTSD,” which is characterized by difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness and memory, self-perception, distorted perceptions of perpetrators of abuse, difficulties in relationships with other people, and negative effects on the meaningfulness of life.” –Grant Hilary Brenner M.D.

    In other words, if, like me, you suffered from abuse or some other form of trauma as a child, it doesn’t go away. It affects every aspect of your life. It will keep you from everything that you really wanted and needed because it’s still asking you to deal with it. 

    Are you still having flashbacks? Are you having panic attacks? Are you still single because you’re afraid of being in a relationship, or have you noticed your “picker” is broken ( you choose partners who are not emotionally available, or are selfish and abusive)? 

    The flashbacks and the panic attacks are your Soul’s way of getting your attention. You aren’t meant to live in fear anymore. 

    It’s so hard when you’re in it because what you think of as normal isn’t . It’s simply what you’re used to-the lack of sleep, all of it. 

    Here are some thoughts to consider:

    1. Get real and get honest- if any of what I’ve said is you, go and talk to a Professional.
    2. Don’t let shame keep you from getting the help you need. What happened “to you” all those years ago was NOT your creation. You didn’t cause it, you couldn’t control it and you could not cure it
    3. It is usual for a child or an adult child to feel tremendous guilt for either surviving the experience or being unable to have stopped it. I felt like this about my mother’s cancer. I felt incredible guilt that I couldn’t keep her alive- as if I even had the power to. Children have very different perspectives than adults as their brains are still developing.
    4. When you’re the survivor of an event or ongoing abuse or trauma of some kind, you live in a state of stress, anxiety and “fight or flight”. Your “emotional brain” shut down at whatever age the trauma occurred. This means you could be an adult who is 45, but emotionally you could be 3.
    5. Chances are, if you’ve survived developmental trauma and you haven’t sought treatment, you’ve moved around a lot. In the past ten years, how often have you moved for whatever reason?
    6. How many different job have you held over the past five years? Depending on your brain, you may have either been at the same job for years afraid to move, or may have changed jobs once a year or more often

    You deserve stability and security. You do. Take a baby step. Look in the mirror and tell yourself the Truth. There is help to be had if you want Peace. Love yourself enough to get help.