Keep the Lights On

As we enter into Autumn, it is important that we take care of ourselves- especially those who suffer with anxiety, depression and/or trauma. Here are some tips for keeping your head above water

  • Don’t Isolate

Even if you’re an introvert, be sure that at least once per week you are spending time with others. If this means attending 12 Steps or a Meditation Class, keep your cup full so you don’t feel alone

Trap- spending time at a mall alone.

Solution- Be in the company of like-minded people that lift you up

  • Meditate
  • It’s important to change your brain chemistry and create new neuropathways. Having a private meditation practice is essential, but so is meditating with others. There are #MaxMeditation classes literally all over the world that will help you do this.
  • Trap- thinking that meditation cannot be successfully done in a group
  • Solution –try it- it’s dirt cheap and you’ll get a lot out of it
    • Take really good care of yourself
  • Self care is really tough for those who suffer with depression or ACE’s. Even the simplest act of making your bed and taking a shower can really help improve your mood.
  • Alanon teaches the acronym HALT– don’t get too Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. Whether you have an Addict in your life or not, this is great advice!
  • Trap- eating junk food and not keeping a regular bedtime will mess you up faster than anything.
  • Solution-Even if you’re going through a period of time where you don’t sleep well, get up at the same time every day, shower or bathe and attend to your day. This will help you if you choose to do it. Eat fruits and vegetables and proteins
    • Keep coffee or tea dates

    If money is a problem, do an exchange with someone who lifts you up. Once a week meet at each other’s homes and switch off.

    Trap- believing you can’t because you have no money is a lie you’re telling yourself. You two can meet and drink water. The important thing is human interaction!

    Solution- make a call or send a text or email today, right now, and get out there!

    There is ALWAYS a way to get through the tough times- always.

    Keep the Lights On

    As we enter into Autumn, it is important that we take care of ourselves- especially those who suffer with anxiety, depression and/or trauma. Here are some tips for keeping your head above water

    • Don’t Isolate

    Even if you’re an introvert, be sure that at least once per week you are spending time with others. If this means attending 12 Steps or a Meditation Class, keep your cup full so you don’t feel alone

    Trap- spending time at a mall alone.

    Solution- Be in the company of like-minded people that lift you up

    • Meditate
  • It’s important to change your brain chemistry and create new neuropathways. Having a private meditation practice is essential, but so is meditating with others. There are #MaxMeditation classes literally all over the world that will help you do this.
  • Trap- thinking that meditation cannot be successfully done in a group
  • Solution –try it- it’s dirt cheap and you’ll get a lot out of it
    • Take really good care of yourself
  • Self care is really tough for those who suffer with depression or ACE’s. Even the simplest act of making your bed and taking a shower can really help improve your mood.
  • Alanon teaches the acronym HALT– don’t get too Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. Whether you have an Addict in your life or not, this is great advice!
  • Trap- eating junk food and not keeping a regular bedtime will mess you up faster than anything.
  • Solution-Even if you’re going through a period of time where you don’t sleep well, get up at the same time every day, shower or bathe and attend to your day. This will help you if you choose to do it. Eat fruits and vegetables and proteins
    • Keep coffee or tea dates

    If money is a problem, do an exchange with someone who lifts you up. Once a week meet at each other’s homes and switch off.

    Trap- believing you can’t because you have no money is a lie you’re telling yourself. You two can meet and drink water. The important thing is human interaction!

    Solution- make a call or send a text or email today, right now, and get out there!

    There is ALWAYS a way to get through the tough times- always.

    Talk is Cheap

    As a culture we give all the appearances of a race of people addicted to the negative and talking about the negative. Notice how easy it is to get into a conversation with someone about a topic that is dark, or about a third person.

    The same can be said about the Healing Process. We can become so addicted to talking about our “story” or “issues”, that they become our identity and rob us of the ability to heal because we are stuck sitting and spinning, around and around about the same topic related to an event in the past where we were harmed in some way. Our emotions are engaged, our egos are entangled in the emotions, making it seem impossible to stop because everything feels relevant and necessary and important.

    I want to be clear, I have done it too. If you look in the “About” section of my website, you’ll see how much Work I’ve done, some of which did involve some sitting and spinning, so please don’t think I’m excluding myself from this conversation at all- I’m not.

    Therapy-the kind where we sit and talk to someone about the thing or things that happened- can be very constructive if it leads you to a greater sense of empathy and understanding of yourself and the people involved in whatever your specific wounding is or was.

    However, if what you want is true healing of the anxiety you’re facing, what you need is energy and brain work- not talk. You need to be able to safely release the negative emotions you’ve been carrying, and also change your brain patterns so you can move on with your life. The best way to do this is through meditation and energy work. Meditation changes your brain patterns by creating new neuro-pathways. You end up using more of your brain and it actually makes you smarter. Energy work such a Jikiden Reiki, heals emotional energy trapped in the body.

    Talk is cheap because it robs you of forward movement. When I work with my clients, we don’t talk, we work. We dig in and we move energy. Healing is work worth engaging in.

    Adults and Developmental Trauma

    “Adults who suffer from developmental trauma may go on to develop Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or “cPTSD,” which is characterized by difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness and memory, self-perception, distorted perceptions of perpetrators of abuse, difficulties in relationships with other people, and negative effects on the meaningfulness of life.” –Grant Hilary Brenner M.D.

    In other words, if, like me, you suffered from abuse or some other form of trauma as a child, it doesn’t go away. It affects every aspect of your life. It will keep you from everything that you really wanted and needed because it’s still asking you to deal with it. 

    Are you still having flashbacks? Are you having panic attacks? Are you still single because you’re afraid of being in a relationship, or have you noticed your “picker” is broken ( you choose partners who are not emotionally available, or are selfish and abusive)? 

    The flashbacks and the panic attacks are your Soul’s way of getting your attention. You aren’t meant to live in fear anymore. 

    It’s so hard when you’re in it because what you think of as normal isn’t . It’s simply what you’re used to-the lack of sleep, all of it. 

    Here are some thoughts to consider:

    1. Get real and get honest- if any of what I’ve said is you, go and talk to a Professional.
    2. Don’t let shame keep you from getting the help you need. What happened “to you” all those years ago was NOT your creation. You didn’t cause it, you couldn’t control it and you could not cure it
    3. It is usual for a child or an adult child to feel tremendous guilt for either surviving the experience or being unable to have stopped it. I felt like this about my mother’s cancer. I felt incredible guilt that I couldn’t keep her alive- as if I even had the power to. Children have very different perspectives than adults as their brains are still developing.
    4. When you’re the survivor of an event or ongoing abuse or trauma of some kind, you live in a state of stress, anxiety and “fight or flight”. Your “emotional brain” shut down at whatever age the trauma occurred. This means you could be an adult who is 45, but emotionally you could be 3.
    5. Chances are, if you’ve survived developmental trauma and you haven’t sought treatment, you’ve moved around a lot. In the past ten years, how often have you moved for whatever reason?
    6. How many different job have you held over the past five years? Depending on your brain, you may have either been at the same job for years afraid to move, or may have changed jobs once a year or more often

    You deserve stability and security. You do. Take a baby step. Look in the mirror and tell yourself the Truth. There is help to be had if you want Peace. Love yourself enough to get help.

    Be Where Your Feet Are

    I sat with my two little Loves at breakfast yesterday and asked them what they would want people to know about what I do and how to help adults and children manage anxiety.

    First, to you, Dear Reader and to everyone they wish unconditional Love and Peace.

    1. we want you to have a miracle
    2. we wish the best for everybody

    One of the things I asked them about was Meditation, which we do nightly at bedtime.

    Meditation is key in changing brain patterns which effect stress and anxiety.

    He said he didn’t know how to actually meditate before. He finds it very relaxing and helps him sleep

    She said it helps him go from being a scared little boy to a calm gentleman

    As for a #LifeActivation, which I offer clients:

    She said it renews you- like if you’ve done a lot of bad things in your life it can renew you and bring you closer to God

    He said when you’re really frightened and scared and need help, you can get a Life Activation and bring the Light down to you.

    So with that, my family and I wish you Love and Hope.

    #Anxiety is manageable and we will walk this Path together!

    Let’s start at the very beginning-it’s a very good place to start.

    Today’s Practice- Be where your feet are. Just that. Whenever you feel yourself drifting into the Past or the Future, just gently come back and be here now, where your feet are.

    Mindfulness, Mini Me Yoga, and Body Image

    As a Culture, we have a real opportunity to make changes from the ground up, and that means starting with our children. Countless studies have shown that Meditation has positive effects on both the brain and the whole body’s ability to deal with stress. This isn’t even bringing Spirituality into the conversation. Meditation is good for you. I am both the Mini Me Yoga Ambassador for Canada and a Certified Facilitator of The Max Meditation System TM. 

    I have stated in all the information I give to potential clients, that our program is a gentle, heart-centered program that is not rigid. We don’t want or need the kids to do “Perfect Yoga”. We want them to be able to enjoy it and feel safe exploring! For many children, Mini Me Yoga is their first experience with Yoga and we want them to enjoy it so the principles of deep belly breathing, relaxation and meditation stay with them! 

    I fell in Love with Mini Me Yoga when I first attended my Facilitator Training. I was relaxed, happy and open. I have giggled so many times, when adults have told me the same thing when I’ve taught Facilitator Classes.  I’ve had requests for Adult Mini Me Yoga Classes! We have a Yoga portion, but also a Meditation portion too. Giving children a chance to gently connect to their bodies and souls is so important!

    The reason our program isn’t rigid is that we are in the Love Business. We want our children breathing, and relaxing into their Hearts and bodies without fear, shame or guilt.  We want the children loving and accepting themselves, just as they are when they come to class.

    As you may see from my profile picture, I don’t have a “standard yoga body”-whatever that means. I am short and curvy, like many women and girls. Kate Bartram-Brown, our founder, is committed to Mini Me Yoga as a safe space for everyone to come and be exactly as they are, and know they are enough. I am on the same page as my good friend, Kate! 

    My Mission for Mini Me Yoga in Canada is the same as it is in 23 other countries around the world. We want kids relaxed, happy, joyful and loving themselves!

    We also want the adults who attend Facilitator and Ambassador Training to know they are enough and just the right size, shape, and kind to teach Mini Me. What matters to us is that you are a Heart-Centered person. I will not train anyone who isn’t. 

     

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