Anxiety and Psycho-Spiritual Healing

Stress is the known, the conscious thing you are dreading or concerned about.  Anxiety, however is unconscious. It’s the panic attack that hits you “out of nowhere”. It’s the fight with your partner over laundry that gets completely out of control and the next thing you know, you are having a screaming match over socks. It’s the recurring nightmares-all of it. 

I deal with the realm of psycho-spiritual Healing and the Unconscious. I’ve been on this Path since I was 19 years old and learned about the Work of Carl Jung. I work with Archetypes in the Meditations I do with my clients to help them Heal from Trauma and Anxiety.  The Energy Work I do releases Trauma held in the mind and body so the client can experience Peace.

The reason there are so many wounded Souls out there wounding other Souls, is that The Great Work-the Process of truly Knowing yourself-is not for the faint of Heart! It’s bloody hard work! The Process of reclaiming your True Self and learning to live in the Present Moment is a deep exploring of your wounds: facing your demons and having the strength to let them go.

Anyone who has suffered Trauma will prefer the darkness they know to the Light they don’t know. Of course this doesn’t make sense to you. You didn’t have your brain wired for danger and drama because of an event, or ongoing events in childhood or young adulthood, or adulthood. We are the ones who duck when we hear a loud noise or have strange personal rituals around bathing, food or sleeping. Thankfully my junk only comes up occasionally now-because I did and continue to do a lot of work to keep it that way. I’m a Healer so it’s a Job Requirement. I stay clean so that when I work with you, our work is clean. my ego isn’t a part of the equation.

It’s so important to remember that we all need a variety of tools. Medication is an important stabilizer, but it is truly naive to believe for a moment that meds will make everything all better-that’s honestly not what they’re for. They keep you stable while you are working on your issues. If you’ve been frustrated that more isn’t happening in your life now that you’re taking the correct medication, or you feel you’ve hit a roadblock, it’s because you need more.

Therapy can be essential, but it can also be a distraction. If you are learning about yourself and growing as a person, great! If you are sitting and spinning and avoiding, and complaining and crying endlessly over the same events over and over again,  then you’re wasting your own valuable time and money. Energy work will assist you in moving deeply into what is hurting you and it will also assist you in releasing it all.

When I do Energy Work with clients, I work with #JikidenReiki and #LIfeActivation and #CrystalHealing. Reiki is now recognized as a very useful Healing Tool for everything from Cancer to smoking cessation.  Energy Work is essential because it can bypass the ego’s protective mechanisms and provided needed pain relief-both emotional and physical.  The Life Activation is used to charge the body with Light and Hope. Again-this is an Energy Healing that bypasses logic and ego and provides deep healing.

Meditation is essential for brain re-patterning. When you are in Depression, Anxiety and Trauma, your brain gets stuck in “fight or flight” as a response to the event or events that occurred in the past. Your brain kept you alive. Now, your job is to help your brain heal by changing those defence mechanisms. The war is over, but your brain doesn’t know it yet. Max Meditation TM is a system that uses the five known forms of Meditation, so it creates 5 new neuropathways every time we use it-this is productive brain development. With children I use  the #MiniMeYoga Meditation System TM which was developed from the Max Meditation System. It is effective and fun for the children while assisting them in learning valuable relaxation techniques. When I teach adults the Mini Me Yoga 2 Hour Workshop, I show adults how to playfully and gently assist young children in learning essential self-regulation strategies.

I also use my own system called the Castle Meditation System TM, in which I assist you in reclaiming your sense of personal sovereignty, and we work with the Chakras. Each one of those energy centres in your body has medicine to share with you and assists you in living more fully in your body. Most people think Meditation is about getting out of your body. The systems I use were designed to help you go deeper in and find stability and peace.

Adults and Developmental Trauma

“Adults who suffer from developmental trauma may go on to develop Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or “cPTSD,” which is characterized by difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness and memory, self-perception, distorted perceptions of perpetrators of abuse, difficulties in relationships with other people, and negative effects on the meaningfulness of life.” –Grant Hilary Brenner M.D.

In other words, if, like me, you suffered from abuse or some other form of trauma as a child, it doesn’t go away. It affects every aspect of your life. It will keep you from everything that you really wanted and needed because it’s still asking you to deal with it. 

Are you still having flashbacks? Are you having panic attacks? Are you still single because you’re afraid of being in a relationship, or have you noticed your “picker” is broken ( you choose partners who are not emotionally available, or are selfish and abusive)? 

The flashbacks and the panic attacks are your Soul’s way of getting your attention. You aren’t meant to live in fear anymore. 

It’s so hard when you’re in it because what you think of as normal isn’t . It’s simply what you’re used to-the lack of sleep, all of it. 

Here are some thoughts to consider:

  1. Get real and get honest- if any of what I’ve said is you, go and talk to a Professional.
  2. Don’t let shame keep you from getting the help you need. What happened “to you” all those years ago was NOT your creation. You didn’t cause it, you couldn’t control it and you could not cure it
  3. It is usual for a child or an adult child to feel tremendous guilt for either surviving the experience or being unable to have stopped it. I felt like this about my mother’s cancer. I felt incredible guilt that I couldn’t keep her alive- as if I even had the power to. Children have very different perspectives than adults as their brains are still developing.
  4. When you’re the survivor of an event or ongoing abuse or trauma of some kind, you live in a state of stress, anxiety and “fight or flight”. Your “emotional brain” shut down at whatever age the trauma occurred. This means you could be an adult who is 45, but emotionally you could be 3.
  5. Chances are, if you’ve survived developmental trauma and you haven’t sought treatment, you’ve moved around a lot. In the past ten years, how often have you moved for whatever reason?
  6. How many different job have you held over the past five years? Depending on your brain, you may have either been at the same job for years afraid to move, or may have changed jobs once a year or more often

You deserve stability and security. You do. Take a baby step. Look in the mirror and tell yourself the Truth. There is help to be had if you want Peace. Love yourself enough to get help.

Anxiety and Public Speaking

This one is a toughy even for famous people. It’s a really good idea to prepare well in advance of the event so you are able to feel confident.

Beforehand-

  1. Do your research and be very thorough
  2. Organize your notes and thoughts and go over them so that you feel comfortable with the topic.
  3. Give yourself a LOT of prep time
  4. If you are given a last-minute assignment, be as organized as possible- this will substantially calm your nerves.
  5. Make a list of absolutely everything you need for that event and that day down to the smallest detail including the mints in your purse or favourite underwear. You will find this a very grounding and calming exercise as it gives you something real to focus on.
  6. If you can, go to the space where you will be speaking. Check and be sure you have everything you need. ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED
  7. Go for a walk, a run, meditate, or do some form of exercise before your presentation

 

At the Time of the Event

  1. Breathe. In through your nose and out through your mouth
  2. Stay in the present moment and stay out of your head and in your Heart
  3. Regardless of what your ego tells you- you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to be Good.
  4. Before you start, take a breath and allow your body to relax into the moment.
  5. Focus on your topic- not how you feel. Look for someone you know and smile at them and talk to them. If you have other friends or acquaintances in the group or crowd, look at them.
  6. Breathe. In through your nose and out through your mouth
  7. If you make an error, relax and correct it. Focus on the information

For further Study

  1. Take a Theatre Class
  2. Take an improvisation Class
  3. Work with a Coach
  4. Trust yourself
  5. Practice meditation

Women and Anxiety

According to Olivia Remes PhD Candidate, University of Cambridge..

“women are almost twice as likely to suffer from anxiety as men. People with anxiety are more likely to miss days from work and are less productive. Young people with anxiety are also less likely to enter school and complete it….”

“Women faced with life stressors are more likely to ruminate about them, which can increase their anxiety, while men engage more in active, problem-focused coping. Other studies suggest that women are more likely to experience physical and mental abuse than men, and abuse has been linked to the development of anxiety disorders. Child abuse has been associated with changes in brain chemistry and structure, and according to previous research, women who have experienced sexual abuse may have abnormal blood flow in the hippocampus, a brain region involved in emotion processing.”

That’s a lot to process, isn’t it? So much of it is historical cultural conditioning. It’s quite similar with ADHD and Depression also. Women get overwhelmed and distracted and tend to suffer in silence.

So now the question is, what do we do? What do we as women do to deal with anxiety?

Here are my suggestions:

  1. Start with being really lovingly and gently honest with yourself about whether or not you need help managing your Anxiety.
  2. Recognize that if there is a problem, there is also a solution.
  3. Love yourself enough to get help—break it down. What do you really need?
  4. Anxiety is an emotional issue that affects every aspect of your life. It is about feelings, not logic and rationale. Be aware that trying to “talk yourself out of it” is a shame-based idea that simply doesn’t work.
  5. If you suffered trauma as a child, it is completely natural that you would be anxious as an adult. Stop beating yourself up.
  6. Look into ways of grounding yourself in your body and getting out of your head. Walking, Yoga and Tai Chi, are some examples of gently connecting with your body. Running will actually continue to engage your “fight or flight” responses because you are running and your heart rate is increased. I have first-hand experience with this with kids. We make sure our little guy stops when he’s had enough because physical activity can actually wind him up rather than calm him down. (Our son is recovering from childhood trauma , pre-adoption.)
  7. Meditation is essential for changing brain patterns caused by trauma and anxiety.

We, as women, no matter how tough and strong we are, need to recognize when we are in trouble— whether it’s a small thing or a big thing—and not feel guilty for needing help.