Have Hope! #LookUp

When you have come through adverse childhood experiences such as abuse, neglect, death of a parent or someone you love, it changes you because it literally changes the way your brain works.

One way to gently change your Mind, is to lovingly look at the Music you listen to. Look at the lyrics.

I had to do this about 10 years ago when I realized that so much of what I was listening to, even if it was popular or had a great beat, was really negative.

Start looking at the lyrics of the songs you listen to. Every time you sing along, you’re repeating negative affirmations directly to your subconscious.

Look at Music that’s happy. Look at lyrics that are positive.

Here’s a popular song called “The Middle”

This, to me is a GREAT SONG!! The subject of the song is relatable and difficult, but it isn’t a “victim” song.

Look at your music choices and see what changes you can make to lighten up and give yourself something hopeful to put in your Mind.

Take a seat

Right over there, sat on the stairs

Stay or leave

The cabinets are bare and I’m unaware

Of just how we got into this mess

Got so aggressive

I know we meant all good intentions

So pull me closer

Why don’t you pull me close

Why don’t you come on over

I can’t just let you go

Oh baby

Why don’t you just meet me in the middle

I’m losing my mind just a little

So why don’t you just meet me in the middle

In the middle

Baby

Why don’t you just meet me in the middle

I’m losing my mind just a little

So why don’t you just meet me in the middle

In the middle

Take a step

Back for a minute, into the kitchen

Floors are wet

And taps are still running, dishes are broken

How did we get into this mess

Got so aggressive

I know we meant all good intentions

So pull me closer

Why don’t you pull me close

Why don’t you come on over

I can’t just let you go

Oh baby

Why don’t you just meet me in the middle

I’m losing my mind just a little

So why don’t you just meet me in the middle

In the middle

Looking at you I can’t lie

Just pouring out admission

Regardless my objection

And it’s not about my pride

I need you on my skin just

Come over, pull me in just

Oh baby

Why don’t you just meet me in the middle

I’m losing my mind just a little

So why don’t you just meet me in the middle

In the middle, no no

Baby

Why don’t you just meet me in the middle, oh yeah

I’m losing my mind just a little

So why don’t you just meet me in the middle, oh

In the middle

Baby

Why don’t you just meet me in the middle, baby

I’m losing my mind just a little

So why don’t you just meet me in the middle, middle

In the middle, middle

– Zedd, Maren Morris, and Grey

Anxiety, Productivity and the Workplace

 

Any time you are distracted, even by positive thoughts, you aren’t present at your work and you’re unproductive.

What can you do to bring better focus?

  • Create a personal ritual in the car or on the train on your way to work. Close your eyes and let go of the things that happened right before. Remind yourself that you’re not ignoring them, you are putting them on hold until the end of the work day
  • Meditate! The number 1 reason I teach my clients to meditate is because it strengthens your Will and allows you to choose on thought over another.
  • Organize your time before and after work. One of the most common forms of self-sabotage is disorganization. Another reason to meditate is that it helps organize your brain. I’m off meds for ADHD as a result of Meditation.  When you make lists, or use your phone’s calendar, you are setting yourself up for success
  • TAKE A DAY OFF! If you are SO distracted at work that you really aren’t doing your job, take a mental health day and take care of yourself. Can’t take a day? Take an evening or a morning. Set an alarm. Get up early and get organized.
  • Gently (yes I said gently) notice what the patterns are. What are you resisting? How can you take the reigns and get back in charge? What’s there for you to lovingly own?