I am Still Seeing Clients During Covid

Time to talk about #LifeActivation during Covid. I am not willing to break any rules for the sake of making money. I am offering Life Activation Healings in person by following this protocol:
It will take place on my patio outside
We will each be wearing a mask
You will not enter my home
When you leave,I will be washing my hands and suggest you do the same at your home.
This Healing is more important now than ever, with the human race having to look at our relationship to Power and our misuse of it.
The Life Activation is a step in the right direction, activating your Spiritual DNA and deepening your relationship to your God.
If you’d like to talk or do a social distancing conversation in person, please do connect with me.

Clear out the Fears and Anxiety Holding You Back

Open the door to a much more grounded, happy and productive Reality! By working with the seven central energy centres in your body, you can release what is blocking you from success and life a MUCH more grounded and practical Life!
You can Heal and deepen your Connection with the Universe, unclog your negative thinking, strengthen your True Voice, remember what Love is and is not, look at your ability to hold boundaries and strengthen your Will, look at how the strength of your emotions is holding you back, and have an honest look at your relationship to 3 Dimensional Reality.
This Coaching Program is not an Escape Plan, I don’t offer those.
When you’re ready to put your Crown back on and Rule your Life, send me a PM.
This is a seven-session program.

-Less Anxiety
-Less Stress
-Better sleep
-Calmer mind
-Improved relationships
-Greater Success in all areas of your Life

heather@heathermccrae.com for pricing and scheduling

Time to get to the Core Issues

Inside every single “villain” is a wounded child. Every single adult and teen inside prison walls is a survivor of some sort of trauma.

The Work I do with both adults and children is to help heal those primal wounds. I can’t-won’t- do it for you, but I will help you do it.

If you’re an adult with wounds, you are hurting. That suffering isn’t necessary. Let me help you.

The way I Work is not standard therapeutic practice. If you have meds, keep taking them. If you have a therapist, keep seeing them. My Work with you will speed the Process you’ve begun.

You will change the way you think, and you will Love yourself more. Those two things will trump the wounding.

Sounds simple, and no it isn’t. Ego can be a powerful thing.

Just start simple. Let me teach you a Meditation method. After that, let me share tools and different ways of thinking that will stretch you beyond your wounding.

Get a #LifeActivation. Get your Faith back- in yourself and in the God that’s waiting for you-your God. Not the god your ego has tricked you into turning your back on. The God that Loves and supports you- regardless of your Faith Tradition.

You have waited so long to feel safe. I’m here to help guide you Home to you.

Why the Chakras Matter

There are seven central chakras in the body, but in total, there are over 2000.

Most people hear the word “chakras” and roll their eyes and imagine some hippy or hipster meditating.

Truthfully, these Energy centres matter more than even meditators generally know.

The Crown Chakra, above your head, is the connector point between us and our God/Diety/LightSource (Insert appropriate Divine Energy Source for you.).

So here is my question to you, curious Reader: How big is your God? What you are receptive to, directly effects everything about you. So I’ll ask again: How big is your God? What are you receiving? Is it Hope? Is it Love? Is it Dogma?

What you are receiving, flows through the Core of your being. What do you want to flow? How open are you to a Loving Source of Hope, Encouragement and Peace?

Third Eye Chakra

This chakra is located in your central core behind your forehead in the center of your skull. Traditionally it’s about your intuition. But here’s the thing- most people have really wonky intuition. Do you know why? His Holiness the Dalai Lama says our thoughts are polluted.

So if your God is small and mean, guess what?! So are your thoughts and so is your intuitive ability. If your God is big, loving and supportive, it’s easier to let that Golden Light of Love down into your central Core to your Third Eye, which opens your mind to see the Truth, but not just the Truth- that Light directly effects the quality of your thoughts.

The first precept in the Hermetic Tradition is: All is Mind. Your thoughts create your Reality. Every decision you make calls out your experiences. If your thoughts are polluted, your life is going to be unnecessarily complicated and messy. All is Mind.

You deserve a Big Loving God Who helps you think Big Loving Thoughts about your Reality. Allow yourself to conceive of more.

-excerpts from my upcoming book

C. 2019 Heather M. McCrae, MEd

How Willing Are You To Be Unpopular?

As an adoptive parent-and a new one at that- I’ve had a steep learning curve. I’ve had to be willing to be unpopular with both my kids and (if need be) their friends.

All children are bombarded with negative messages from all media- including music and video games.

Because our children are adopted, they have extra sensitivities to many things that birth parents aren’t aware of and would have no reason to.

There’s one thing I’ve learned tho- all children at all ages are susceptible to all those negative messages hidden in music and video games.

I’m a lesbian, so no I’m not a religious nut. As a Developmental Trauma survivor, I am, however, keenly aware of how the unconscious mind works and how to change it, reach it and shift it. I teach Meditation systems to adults and children to help shift out of negative self-image and negative self- talk.

The children who need this the most, are the kids who are already self-harming through cutting or other negative self-harming activities. Cutting is a stress-relief. Kids who cut are super-stressed and completely misunderstood.

Here are some suggestions I have based on real-world experience. Although neither of our kids cut, they certainly have had other challenges. Everything I’m suggesting here, we do:

  1. Pay attention to your kids’ music choices and help them remove all negative or confusing songs from their playlist- READ THE LYRICS!! This can easily be done online. Every single genre of music-including rap and metal- have songs with meaningful and empowering lyrics. Do NOT listen to adult music with your kids- they won’t understand and you are not helping them in any way.
  2. Lose the shooter games. To me this is self-evident, but because we have a child who was abused as an infant and toddler we are more aware than most people how dark and aggressive games are damaging to children’s minds. There are millions and millions of games that are interesting, fun, silly and stimulating that are NOT violent, aggressive or negative. Do your homework. If you have a child already suffering with some form of anxiety, they NEED Positive loving messages.
  3. Use commonsensemedia.com before taking your kid to the movies. Pay attention to the messages.
  4. Limit recreational screen time and supervise screen time that is homework-related. My partner and I are total hard-asses when it comes to protecting our children’s minds. We do ZERO recreational screen time during the week. Only weekends and holidays.
  5. Learn a Positive Meditation system that uses Neurolingustic Programming so that as your kids are getting ready for bed, their bodies begin to relax and they start to feel safe as they drift off to sleep. This will make a HUGE difference in terms of limiting nightmares and improving quality of sleep
  6. Limit sugar- yes I said it. If your child is anxious, sugar and caffeine will keep them in a state of “fight or flight”. Especially if they are upset- do NOT add to it by soothing with sugar- use a protein snack like cheese. Save the ice cream for a weekend day or afternoon, when the kids are at the park or can “play it off”

I want so much for enough families to turn away from games like “fortnight” that are specifically and evilly target young children and making violence a fun game for them. Violence isn’t fun.

3 Things You Can Do Today to Feel Less Anxious

For anyone who is a Developmental Trauma Survivor, or has suffered with anxiety, anxiety is a given. It can feel completely hopeless to think it will ever go away because any trauma survivor, or anxious person, who’s had no help, has no hope. Here are three simple things that can, over time (no quick fixes) to help change your brain patterns out of “fight or flight” anxiety thinking, and into something much calmer and more relaxed

  1. Change the music you’re listening to: your brain is used to thinking obsessively which is why you get portions of songs stuck in your head. You can remember song lyrics from ages ago. You probably listen to depressing or angry music. I want to invite you to stop it. You’re keeping yourself in a stressed state. Music speaks to the unconscious mind. Start looking at the lyrics to the songs you’re singing. There are artists in every genre of music who have hopeful and/or positive lyrics.
  2. Meditate: science has proven that Meditation creates new neuropathways in your brain. To release your mind from obsessive, fear-based thinking, you need to be creating new pathways in your brain. Until you have new neuropathways, you will remain stuck. There are many different forms of Meditation-find one that is positive, calming and relaxing to lift you up.
  3. Breathe: fight or flight breathing is shallow and from the chest. As an ongoing pattern of breathing, you are literally not giving your brain enough oxygen. Practice taking slow deep breaths in through your nose and out of your mouth. Even 2 minutes a day can help!

About Heather M. McCrae, MEd

Heather worked for several years with at-risk children in the field of Special Education, with children in both Middle School and Pre-school. Since moving home to Canada in 2010, Heather focuses on working with adults, children, and trauma. She is the lead Ambassador to Canada for Mini Me Yoga, and is a Certified Healer in Jikiden Reiki, 7 Layer Aura Healing, and Life Activation. She is also a Developmental Trauma Survivor.

7 Habits of Traumatized People

Developmental Trauma is PTSD in children. The study of Developmental Trauma is about its long-term effects on individual adults over time.

  1. Everything is “on the run”– eating very quickly in the car, lots of fast food, no time to slow down- go go go. There’s always a reason everything had to be done yesterday
  2. Argument argument argument– about many many things, which is why relationships are near impossible. When you’re on the defensive all the time, you believe everything is a challenge to your integrity as a person, which always leads to the conclusion that the other person isn’t safe for you to be with or work for
  3. Always on the move– trauma survivors move a lot! Every 1-3 years, for some reason or other, they need to move. Staying in one place is dangerous
  4. Over-use of stimulants- caffeine and sugar in the correct doses, mimic the “fight or flight” response in the body, which is what a trauma survivor is most used to. There’s always a reason why more is necessary
  5. Vigilance- this is a key component of trauma- always being on your guard- moody, defensive, angry, anything to keep “the bad” away. This greatly effects sleep and relationships.
  6. Living like there’s no tomorrow- this is because in the traumatized brain, there is no tomorrow. This includes risky behaviours with sex, drugs, alcohol, money, anything that can be used for self-destructive purposes or “thrills”.
  7. Addiction to Drama- when you grow up in it, you perpetuate it. You unconsciously keep living out what you experienced. Peace makes you nervous

So what do you do now? There are long-term complications to your body because of the chemical reactions associated with “fight or flight”. When you’re in this state, your body doesn’t absorb nutrients or sugar properly. Everyone who doesn’t get help, gets sick. It’s just that simple.

Solutions:

  1. Meditation– yes. You have to change the way your brain is wired. You are wired to be stressed out
  2. Reiki and energy work– you need to get the trauma off your body
  3. Gentle exercise– not running or anything stressful- you’ll merely mirror fight or flight and it will be counter-productive. Look at things like Yoga and Tai Chi

About Heather M. McCrae, MEd

Heather worked for several years with at-risk children in the field of Special Education, with children in both Middle School and Pre-school. Since moving home to Canada in 2010, Heather focuses on working with adults, children, and trauma. She is the lead Ambassador to Canada for Mini Me Yoga, and is a Certified Healer in Jikiden Reiki, 7 Layer Aura Healing, and Life Activation. She is also a Developmental Trauma Survivor.

The Gym of the Soul

Inner Child Work is not for wimps! Nobody can do it for you. Think of working with me as going to the Gym for your Soul. Even writing this I’m rolling my eyes WITH you!

The Work we do together is really hard at first and, just like going to the Gym, you’ll be sore (inside) and won’t see Progress right away- or if you do, it will be a little bit.

BUT- if you are brave enough to stick with it, and keep going, you will slowly and gently see Miracles unfold that you never thought possible. These Miracles look different for everyone. For some people, the Miracle is being in a healthy relationship with someone who Truly can and does love you in a healthy way. For others it’s being able to face an abuser with Light in your eyes knowing they can’t hurt you anymore and knowing whatever garbage they’re slinging, you’re not reacting- to ANY of it: you’re standing tall and free:

I don’t make Promises about anything EXCEPT that if you stick with it, you will Heal. How loot it takes is up to you.

I’m here to help. What we can’t do together is pity parties. We can’t sit and stew. You’ve had years of that and so have I. What we CAN do is:

1. Meditate to change stuck brain patterns so you begin to think differently and more hopefully

2. Jikiden Reiki to move the Energy of the abuse off your body

3. Life Activation to give you a deep infusion of Light and Hope

4. Coaching- I will give you specific techniques for dealing with specific issues

When you’re ready, I’m here

Heather@heathermccrae.com

Coming In Out of the Cold

One of the most important things a trauma survivor can do is receive love and it is also the hardest.

If you grew up in chaos and had relationship modelled for you in a way that frightened you, you avoid the very thing that can save you.

When you meet someone how do you know they’re “the one” or the “right one”? Many of us go from one unfulfilling “relationship” to another because it’s safer than having to be authentically vulnerable and opening our hearts to receive Love from some who actually knows how to love us in a healthy way.

Here are some thoughts for you:

  1. If the person REALLY triggers you, in either a good way or a bad way, WALK AWAY. You are just going to have to trust me on this one. All that STUFF is just more drama
  2. If the person is authentically kind to you, TAKE YOUR TIME getting to know them. If they are good for you, they won’t hurry either
  3. You will want to jump heard-first into everything so you can dissect it all, get what you need, and take off before you get hurt. DONT DO THAT
  4. When you find someone good for you, you will test them. I’m not even going to tell you not to, but I AM going to tell you to apologize and recognize when you’re doing it
  5. Encourage them to read up on trauma so they can understand you
  6. Do your inner work. If you want this relationship, then act like it. Work on your issues in whatever way you do or can

You deserve Love and Peace and you don’t have to be alone to be safe. Come in from the cold, my friend

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